THE PAINS OF TIME

Where to?

We were once as innocent as a kid. But what happened to us?

Its disheartening to see a great number of young people hovering around destruction without realizing it. Most times I ask myself what is actually the cause of these lexical attitudes. Should we blame our parents, teachers, environment or the peer group? Of a truth, these four factors have great influence on the young mind but the parents are in the right position to align the child before he(male or female) gets exposed to the other factors.

Human beings have different ways of responding to the force pushing them at every moment. Take for instance, a friend of mine asked me a question last night "Is it true that when you don't av sex as a young guy, it affects you in the future?". I just laughed uncontrollably because I was once told that by a friend some years back. Now looking closely at these situation, you will realise that my response to that question might to a great percentage determine this lad's next point of action. If I convince him that his friend is right or wrong, he might end up doing what his flesh wants. So, I made him understand the advantages and disadvantages of indulging in such. I the ball is now left on his court to make d right decision.

This is just a minor effect of the peer group. Your peers can convince you to commit all sorts of atrocities and you on the other hand, might end up doing that if you don't have a strong foundation from your parents. During my childhood/ teenage days, I had this very close friend(dead or alive I can't tell now) then, we do every single bit of thing together. If you see him at 12:00, just tilt your neck at 12:01, I will always be there. But we had different attitudes, although it's being said that ornithological specimens of the same plumage conglomerate to their nearest proximity, that wasn't the case fr us. I was lucky to have a no nonsense Dad. I do go with dz friend of mine to some neighboring streets or houses to pluck fruits from restricted compounds and when the owners see us, we run like trained criminals. Thanks to him, I learnt how to scale fence two times my height. We were a very good combination. "But why wasn't I finally carried away by such acts as I advanced in age?" has been a puzzle I failed to solve for years. But as time will always tell, I realised later on that while I was still very close to him, I was actually growing to like such deeds. But My parents are the last persons I would want to hear that I was involved in any misconduct because it would mean hell, so, I grew smart, smart enough to cover my tracks. Of a truth, I thought I was doing well. But mercy said no and God decided to show a drop of mercy and the only thing I never expected, happened; we moved from that environment to somewhere I couldn't get close to my Bossom friend anymore. This new environment had another effect on me. Thanks to God. But, on the other side of the story, my friend kept on improving in his childish criminal act and it gradually matured and he turned to become a real time criminal, a ring leader at that. The rest that happened with is now history. After some months of terrorizing the neighbourhood and beyond, SARS caught him and his accomplices and that was the last we heard from him. I lost my paddy and am cork sure that he didn't just start being that way, someone or the environment must have taught him because he was very good at it and mind you, he was 4 to 5 years older than me. Funny tho. But what could have happened to me if we were still close a little more. Probably, u won't b seeing dz post.

Now story time is over. With this real life situation, I think I av been able to illustrate the effect of parents, environment n peer group on the lives of young people. Our parents might have failed in their quest to make us better persons. But the question now is, how well have we tried to be that better person we dream of. We youths have greatly lacked focus and direction just because we followed the path that seemed right and pleasurable. We go for Short term gains and we forgot the long term gain.

Sins like murder, cultism, Fornication, prostitution, idolatry and even adultery, yes adultery have been prevalent in the lives of youths these days. We see Fornication as catching fun, cultism as a big boys' or big girls' game, adultery as a sharp boys' or girls' means of earning by defiling someone else's matrimonial rite. Yahoo is also becoming the order of the day. I now ask my self, wat type of generation are we set to produce. It hurts me a lot because everybody has been caught up in this mess, even our parents. Nobody is an exemption because if you are not an effector, you turn out to be a victim of circumstance. This has been "The pains of time" and it is gradually turning to a cancerous loop hole. At d end we blame our parents and government for not providing what we need and we forgot that Jesus' Father was just a carpenter but he fulfilled God's will, David was a shepherd boy but Gid's grace came upon him because he was doing something useful and in alignment with his destiny as a king. Abram didn't know who God was but he listened to him.

Have a rethink....

I wish to take a break here for now.

Mhizatspicy Cares

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